High Fidelity

Hmm ,well talking about fidelity I draw a big blank point in my head..Fidelity???hmmm totally unheard off...infidelity,yeah always hearing those things from all the celebrity magazines laying around.Those high glam celebrities breaking up and citing infidelity as a reason.What's actually fidelity?,to put it in a nice and simple word it means faithfulness to obligation,so you are only being faithful because you obliged to be?not because you want to be faithful?so am I being not faithful to my boyfriend by my innocent flirting with the cashier guy at KFC?Lets take a look at the classic wedding vow:

"I, (Name)
Take you,(Name),
To be my (wife/husband);
To have and to hold,
From this day forward,
For better,for worse,
For richer,for poorer,
In sickness and in health,
To love and to cherish,
"Till death do us apart"or(As long as we both shall live)

I don't see any promises to stay faithful.....I don't see any "to love,to cherish and to be faithful" For me fidelity is just an overrated excuse in a relationship.But by saying that I didn't mean to sound like a cheating girlfriend.Fidelity is someting that you do because you want to do that not because its a rule in a relationship.I'm being faithful to my boyfriend because I love him and its my way of honouring him.I'm not being faithfull because he wants me to do so its because I want to do so.This brings a world of differences in a relationship.Sometimes I wonder whether it is a virtue that is soon dying out from relationships.Forgive me please as I'm not interested in sounding so self righteousness but in relationship we pick n choose to be close to someone because there is that 'need' ,that 'urge' that 'something' in our nature that makes us want to be that special person to somebody.So we pick n choose and and once we've choosen we tend to stick close to that person,no matter how much we are hurt by them or we have hurt them.Once you have made the choice to be faithful to someone because its the right thing to do then its no more relationship,its an obligation.Its no more Love its Responsibility.

L.B.D

When talking about little black dress,the most common thing that will pop into people's mind is the dress which is most essential in any woman's wardrobe.The little black dress transcends trends and time,always the right thing to wear no matter the occasion.Undoubtedly,the little black dress has a much lauded history.However,for me the novel little black dress written by Loren D.Estleman will come into my mind.Opening the book is like cracking a can of coca-cola on a hot day,from the first taste its so delicious and goes down so smoothly that you know you in for an eminently satisfying experience.This novels revolves around the main character Peter Macklin,an ex hitman and his struggles trying to adjust to a newly married life and all that entails including new home,difficult mother in law and her significant half,Benjamin Grinnel.The novel takes an unexpected turn when Macklin discover that Benjamin is a spotter for a gang of armed robbery.Macklin driven by his professional curiosity and his desire to protect his family cant help but get involved.As he investigates Benjamin's dark past he gets tangled up with Benjamin's enemies including the Ohio mob and the law.I had the time of my life reading this novel.Loren D.Estleman is definitely a genius storyteller who can easily engage his readers with acerbic wit and dry affection.For those who haven't got a chance to read this novel,do it ASAP! Enjoyment is guaranteed.

2010

Ah...January.The first month of the year,a month of resolutions,a month of new hope and dreams.Just as I'm recovering from the festives of Christmas,I have to jump right into the merry making mode of of the new year.As I held a bubbly welcome to 2009 little could I have imagined that it was going to be a year of major changes to me.Everything from my personal life to relationship and life path took somehow a somersault!But as I write this in the midst of celebrating the arrival of the brand new year ,I've come to fully understand the importance of accepting and believing that everything happens for a reason.And Yes,there's always a silver lining at the end of every challenge and Yes,there's always a consolation even if you fail. The lesson's I've learn in the past years are those which absolutely no book can teach me.As I take the path of 2010,here is my fervent aim:To live life as there is no tomorrow!There is nothing like planning ahead to get us started on something.That's the great thing about new beginnings,we get to decide how we want to live our life,no matter we abide by the rules or not.So,here's to silver linings and a great year ahead.CHEERS